Sadly, this post was in regards to a comment made to me by one of those who are closest to me. Though I won't reveal the identity of the author of this comment, I wanted to go public with it to validate my feelings.
Insecurities can run deep and bleed deeper when they are noticed by others and even worse, commented on about it. While I know these things are reality, theres no delusion that they aren't there or that they'll magically disappear, it hurts when others find pleasure from your downfalls (whether they think its "joking" or not). Bullying is not okay at any age. We are taught to accept others as they are, but yet, it is so difficult for other to do. We are all under constant observation and internal judgment of those around us. The truth is, no one gets to judge us but God. If you are okay with who you are and are living to the best of your ability, who gives a hoot what others think, right?
I appreciate the support I received from my friends and I encourage anyone feeling unattractive in result of the unkind words other spew to look within themselves, remind themselves of what truly matters and what makes them happy.
While I took pride in many superficial things before I became a mommy, they are just that- things. I, now, take pride in being a good mommy and being a good example for my girlies. While, I may look like a hot mess most days, I dress for the occasion :)
Feel free to review the comments and responses below and let it be a reminder to love yourself and build each other up (love up).
***Names have been altered to protect indentities***
T*R*D* Where is this person? Key me at em. Seriously...
Trini Michelle-Lailie Hurtado Thank you for your kind words, ladies. Its no secret that self image is a sensitive topic after youve had a baby... let alone back to back. Its been one of my secret struggles. There doesnt seem like enough time in the day most days to care for myself as I used to before my beautiful babies. Im not making excuses. My girls always look great. So yes, hair doesnt get styled cut or colored, makeup is a rarity, no- Im not pregnant... I just gained a ton of weight after breast feeding, nails dont get painted, skin and teeth dont get treatments, most days its a privledge to actually wear normal clothes (which are gigantic compared to what I used to be, so I dont wear the latest and greatest)- I put my littles ones first. By the time I get around to me- Im exhausted. Again, Im not making excuses. It is what it is. It doesnt bother me as it does others apparently. I guess what hurts most is people have to go out of their way to notice and make snarky comments. Love up, people. Dont bring those around you down- never know what a day in their shoes may behold.
S*A*B* Trini u Do Not Have to explain anything to anyone! U r a beautiful young lady inside and out. U'r true friends knows u and hav alot of respect for u. Don't even listen to their nonsense.
A*M* That’s called being a mom. And a damn good one. I will always go without before I let my girls do so. I usually look like a hot mess while my girls are wearing the latest and greatest. My shoes are wearing down to the ground while my girls have yet another new pair. You’re beautiful inside and out. I’m so sorry there’s someone who failed to see that. How unfortunate for them.
M*G* When you have two littles at home, it's a good day when you can shower without interruptions let alone anything else. Whoever made that comment probably doesn't have a clue.
S*C* The struggle is real, and it cuts like a knife when your self esteem gets wounded. Believe me I know how hard it is to work and have babies , not to mention your long commute! Hang in there my friend.This too shall pass!
R*B*G* Guess that person doesn't have a life mija! And, her opinion doesn't even matter....Your beautiful!!
❤ love you momma!
❤ love you momma!
K*P* The person probably wears tons of make up and what not to try and make themselves look decent. Being a mom to 2 youngins you don’t have time for that crap. Be yourself and take care of your little ones don’t care what they think of you. Like me I could care less what anyone thinks of me I am who I am. My family is what matters
Trini Michelle-Lailie Hurtado Beautifully said. Thats what Ive always thought of when I look in the mirror. My stretch marks are beautiful because that was were my babies grew and called their home, my "duck tails" (the short hairs on the perimeter of of scalpline) are a result of hormonal changes when I lost most of my hair and it is making a return, the pigmit spots on my face are also a result of pregnancy and hormone changes. I dont see them as faults. Its part of my garment
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