Love Up

Recently, I shed light on a sensitive body image post on Facebook. The initial post stated, "Nothing crushes a busy moms soul worse than someone telling you, you look like crap and need to go to the salon among other things."


Sadly, this post was in regards to a comment made to me by one of those who are closest to me. Though I won't reveal the identity of the author of this comment, I wanted to go public with it to validate my feelings.


Insecurities can run deep and bleed deeper when they are noticed by others and even worse, commented on about it. While I know these things are reality, theres no delusion that they aren't there or that they'll magically disappear, it hurts when others find pleasure from your downfalls (whether they think its "joking" or not). Bullying is not okay at any age. We are taught to accept others as they are, but yet, it is so difficult for other to do. We are all under constant observation and internal judgment of those around us. The truth is, no one gets to judge us but God. If you are okay with who you are and are living to the best of your ability, who gives a hoot what others think, right?


I appreciate the support I received from my friends and I encourage anyone feeling unattractive in result of the unkind words other spew to look within themselves, remind themselves of what truly matters and what makes them happy.


While I took pride in many superficial things before I became a mommy, they are just that- things. I, now, take pride in being a good mommy and being a good example for my girlies. While, I may look like a hot mess most days, I dress for the occasion :)


Feel free to review the comments and responses below and let it be a reminder to love yourself and build each other up (love up).


***Names have been altered to protect indentities***



T*R*D*  Where is this person? Key me at em. Seriously...

J*R-C* 

L*J*  You are beautiful!

T*R*D*  Absolutely

T*R*D* 

E*S*  How awful :(
You're beautiful!

M*P*  Were they just joking?

Trini Michelle-Lailie Hurtado Wish they were...

S*S*  Don’t listen to them Trini!!! 😘

M*R*  What! You're always style'n! They're just jealous

P*L*  Taylor Swift - shake it off. You are beautiful and unique in God’s eye 😘

A*C*

M*G*  You don't need that kind of negativity in your life. #ScrewThemHaters

A*R*  Only ones opinion that should matter is my brother as long as he still loves you and find you attractive nothing else matters forget everyone's comments you are still beautiful

P*P*  You are beautiful! How dare they

Trini Michelle-Lailie Hurtado Thank you for your kind words, ladies. Its no secret that self image is a sensitive topic after youve had a baby... let alone back to back. Its been one of my secret struggles. There doesnt seem like enough time in the day most days to care for myself as I used to before my beautiful babies. Im not making excuses. My girls always look great. So yes, hair doesnt get styled cut or colored, makeup is a rarity, no- Im not pregnant... I just gained a ton of weight after breast feeding, nails dont get painted, skin and teeth dont get treatments, most days its a privledge to actually wear normal clothes (which are gigantic compared to what I used to be, so I dont wear the latest and greatest)- I put my littles ones first. By the time I get around to me- Im exhausted. Again, Im not making excuses. It is what it is. It doesnt bother me as it does others apparently. I guess what hurts most is people have to go out of their way to notice and make snarky comments. Love up, people. Dont bring those around you down- never know what a day in their shoes may behold.

S*A*B*  Trini u Do Not Have to explain anything to anyone! U r a beautiful young lady inside and out. U'r true friends knows u and hav alot of respect for u. Don't even listen to their nonsense.

A*M*  That’s called being a mom. And a damn good one. I will always go without before I let my girls do so. I usually look like a hot mess while my girls are wearing the latest and greatest. My shoes are wearing down to the ground while my girls have yet another new pair. You’re beautiful inside and out. I’m so sorry there’s someone who failed to see that. How unfortunate for them.

M*G*  When you have two littles at home, it's a good day when you can shower without interruptions let alone anything else. Whoever made that comment probably doesn't have a clue.

S*C*  The struggle is real, and it cuts like a knife when your self esteem gets wounded. Believe me I know how hard it is to work and have babies , not to mention your long commute! Hang in there my friend.This too shall pass!

R*B*G*  Guess that person doesn't have a life mija! And, her opinion doesn't even matter....Your beautiful!!❤ love you momma!

Trini Michelle-Lailie Hurtado Love you too. Thank you ❤

K*P*  The person probably wears tons of make up and what not to try and make themselves look decent. Being a mom to 2 youngins you don’t have time for that crap. Be yourself and take care of your little ones don’t care what they think of you. Like me I could care less what anyone thinks of me I am who I am. My family is what matters

N*L'H*  Oh woman...you are fierce!!! A beautiful woman!!!

N*L'H*  Love up, people!!!! Love you, gurl! 💪

S*G*  How dare they!!... Being a mom is a beautiful garment to wear ♥...

Trini Michelle-Lailie Hurtado Beautifully said. Thats what Ive always thought of when I look in the mirror. My stretch marks are beautiful because that was were my babies grew and called their home, my "duck tails" (the short hairs on the perimeter of of scalpline) are a result of hormonal changes when I lost most of my hair and it is making a return, the pigmit spots on my face are also a result of pregnancy and hormone changes. I dont see them as faults. Its part of my garment ;)

S*G*  Exactly...

T*R*D*  Is this someone u have to be around? If not... don't.

L*K*  I'm sorry to hear that those are the words and sentiments being directed at you! Don't worry if your reasons sound like "excuses" you shouldn't need an excuse for your own body, hair, or nails in the first place. I hope you find the time and support for self-care, but that the self-care is actually for you and not to please shallow people who don't care about your actual well being!

J*L*  If someone says that, they are acting like crap. At least you have a recourse...

People Enter One's Life For a Reason

Cliché, I know. But I really do believe people come in your life for a reason whether you want to believe it or not. When we moved to Globe, I was very lonely. I knew I wanted to be here. I knew I wanted to remodel Pearl and give my family a safe place to learn, play and grow.

Martin and I are accustomed to working opposites so the girls won't need to go to daycare and

they can enjoy quality time with us in the comfort of their own home. However, on the days he worked, I was becoming hard to have a conversation with a newborn and a 15 month old. Though my world was full of love and joy, I felt a void. A longing for someone to talk to or just a companion to go on a short outing with every now and again. I have struggled meeting friends in Globe, but had the opportunity at meeting some pretty amazing people.

It took me a while to formulate the words in how I was going to express this. Though we have family who are local, I realize everyone has their own lives and busy tasks. Therefore, meeting regularly becomes slim to none. Then, I met an amazing church group. My girls had a safe place they could play with good, Christ loving children. I had developed a friendship with one of the most amazing and inspiring women I have come to know in my lifetime. At the time, both newish mothers, trying to gain knowledge and wisdom from other mothers and wiser women around us. Her perspective on life, Christ and the way she viewed the world was unlike any I've ever encountered. Her hunger for life, love in Christ and her motivation to spread the word and the gospel was encouraging. I found myself reestablishing a spiritual connection with the lord and enjoying my studies (first time since I practiced Judaism). I also enjoyed our many play dates and church activities.

However, the lord called upon her family to serve another part of Arizona. Sadly, this meant leaving the area and losing our day to day hang outs. While I was so happy the lord answered her families prayers for direction and gave them an opportunity to grow and flourish, I found myself in transition again. New church, new friends, new environment for the girls.

While we attended the same church, some meetings included involvement with other congregations in the surrounding area leading to other relationships with other moms. Because of this, during this moment of transition, my heart gravitated toward a church we had visited during our monthly moms group. It felt right. The ladies were warm and inviting, there was a nursery with the sweetest care volunteers, and as time went on, I began to see familiar faces from my prior congregation. A blessing in mine and my girls' eyes. How wonderful it has been to be welcomed with open arms and open hearts.  

The lord led His people to worship together once again. What a great feeling. Had the lord not brought this young lady into my life, I wouldn't have gained and strengthened other relationships that would help me in this transition. I am grateful. Though we don't physically see each other anymore since her move, I value our friendship, enjoy talking to her and bouncing those mommy moments off of each other. The lord brought us together and yes, people enter your life for a reason.